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DEAR ABBY: My daughter is graduating from faculty with a bachelor’s diploma — a proud second. I’m divorced from her mom. Each her mom and I are invited to attend the ceremony, however she has not invited my present spouse, whom she doesn’t like. She has acknowledged that she has solely a restricted variety of tickets and needs to ask her mother’s shut family.
This has put me in an uncomfortable place, as my spouse feels disregarded and aggrieved.
I can both insist to my daughter that she has to ask my spouse, or I gained’t attend, or I can go, insisting to my spouse that this can be a important second in my daughter’s life and I must be there. What ought to I do? — CONFLICTED IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR CONFLICTED: In case your present spouse had a hand within the demise of your marriage to your first spouse, I can perceive your daughter’s dislike of her. If it’s a persona battle, she shouldn’t be shocked that she wasn’t invited.
I agree with you that your daughter’s faculty commencement is a big milestone. I perceive why you are feeling the must be there to have fun it along with her. Clarify to your spouse that you desire to her to “be the larger individual” and ship you off to the ceremony with out including to your drawback. Then do what your coronary heart tells you to do.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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